Guest Post by Q Kevin
Buying a nice vibrator is one part of the picture – using it the right way is another.
If you’re new to this game and just bought your first ever sex toy, there are some things that you need to know to achieve maximum sensations and sexual pleasure.
Vibrators come in various shapes, types, sizes and materials. Whether you go for a rabbit, a bullet or a clit vibrator, it is important to go for a toy that has relatively low vibrations – and gradually work your way up as you get to explore your body more and those right spots.1.
Here, we have compiled some basic vibrator tips to get the best orgasm.
1. Get the Right Product
Without a doubt, getting a nice vibrator is going to be one of the first few important decisions you need to take. There are a lot of products available out there, however, your intensity of orgasms might vary from vibrator to another.
Considering that you’ve just started to explore your sexual fantasies, we suggest going for a vibrator with relatively low vibrations. Initially, your clitoris could be super sensitive to vibrations, a strong vibrator might reduce your pleasurable moments and make you cum rather quickly (you don’t want that.. trust me).
2. A Relaxing and Peaceful Place
The surrounding and ambiance plays a big role in setting up the right mood prior to a self-loving session.
We all have those stressed out days at work almost everyday. It is important that your mind is as relaxed as your body before you start playing with your toy. A nice and dim lightning effect, or some soothing music on your iPod can help you set the perfect mood.
3. There is No Rush
Make sure time is by your side. If it isn’t, you’ll be better off not playing with your vibrator at all.
If you know for a fact that someone is about to ring your doorbell or if you’re expecting a phone call in the next few minutes, take care of that first. You don’t wanna be in your zone and then get interrupted midway – that’s gonna be a major buzzkill.
Moreover, don’t give yourself a time constraint as to when to get done with it. If you’re new to sex toys, you will need time to get used to them and also, your own body and finding those right spots.
4. Lube Them Up – Your Clit and the Vibrator
For better sensations and stimulation to your sensitive parts, use a lubricant or a gel for added pleasure.
Yes, your vibrator alone is usually enough to give you a strong orgasm, however, orgasm is not your only goal here. There’s a saying that goes, ‘The journey is as important as the destination.’ Make sure you make your journey fun and exciting, too.
5. Vibrator Attachments and Customizations
To spice up your self-loving moment, you can try one of those external attachments that can be purchased separately.
The flutter attachment for gentle clitoral stimulation, rabbit attachment for amazing, pulsating patterns or the Euphoria G-spot stimulating attachment are some nice options to try out even for first timers.
6. Kick Off Your Session
Once you’re all set, it’s time to get on with it!
Start by touching yourself nice and slow. You’re still in the learning process, so there will be a lot of self-revelations while you explore your body, your clitoris, the sensitive areas, the uncomfortable areas – all of that.
Again, you don’t have to jump to your sex toy right away. Get your body into the zone and a nice rhythm before you start using the vibrator. Once you’re into it, begin playing with your toy by slowly touching it against your clitoris. You don’t have to start rubbing it hardly against your clitoris right away, as it might either result in a quick orgasm or make you feel uncomfortable or painful.
The lube that you applied will help in touching and gently moving the vibrator up, down, left, right and various other patterns against your clitoris. Try not to keep the vibrator at one place for too long as your body will start to feel monotonous and could possibly stop reacting to it in a pleasurable way.
Remember, all bodies are made different. There is no hard and fast rule as to which specific area or sexual stimulation will make you go crazy. You need to find the sweet spots by yourself.
7. Don’t Feel Shy to Explore Your Body
No one is watching you, it’s just you and your vibrator. You don’t have to hold yourself back while exploring the perfect G-spot, and which set of vibration patterns works best to stimulate it the way you like it.
Most vibrators come with different vibration settings where you can change the pattern or speed of the vibrations. As we mentioned earlier, never go with strong/high vibration patterns too soon. You are yet to fully explore your vagina and the areas that make you completely wet and the areas that might feel weird or at times painful.
Your first few sessions will be all about knowing your body and the way it reacts to various spots and vibrations.
8. There are No Rights or Wrongs
You might find a lot of videos and guides by sex experts about achieving a perfect orgasm, and all their do’s and dont’s. Well, forget all that!
As long as your body is not feeling any pain or discomfort with a certain sex toy or the way you’re using it, it’s all fair game. You don’t really have to try to follow someone you saw in a YouTube video. What works for one woman might not work for another.
It’s your body and only you can discover what works best for yourself in terms of sexual pleasure.
9. You’re a Woman, Keep Going!
Oh, and did we forget to tell you that you don’t necessarily have to stop after your first orgasm? If your mind and body is still into it, you don’t have to put your vibrator away or start cleaning up.
Women can have multiple orgasms, depending on the mood and the way your body reacts after an orgasm. However, if you are a natural squirter and you feel that you’ve already released a lot of juices, it’s better to keep a water bottle with you and keep yourself hydrated.
10. Clean Your Toy After Use
This goes without saying, but we’re still mentioning it to remind you about the importance of hygiene, cleanliness and playing with your sex toys in the safest possible way.
Vibrators made with medical-grade silicone, glass or stainless steel can be washed using hot or warm water. However, do not completely submerge the vibrator unless it is 100% waterproof. Before and after each session, clean the vibrator using a washcloth.
Have fun with your vibrator.. You still have a long way to go! 🙂