Things to try in 2022

I am not really a big fan of New Year resolutions, so I am certainly not about to start preaching any to you!  However, I do think a New Year is a good time for trying new things.  So, here are my Top 10 recommendations to try in 2022 (if you haven’t already!).

1. 1. Blindfold

A blindfold is a relatively mild step into the world of BDSM and kinks, but a wonderfully impactful one.  Being deprived of one of your senses, just makes all the others so much more sensitive.  It heightens every touch or caress of your body.  I also love the feeling of not being able to see what is coming next – the suspense of a kiss on your thigh or a tight pinch on your nipple or something else unexpected!

A blindfold is easily improvised, so you can get going on this one right away!

• 2. Oral worship

I think most of us would agree that receiving oral sex feels pretty good.  Many of us would also agree that giving oral sex is also a pretty satisfying experience.  Personally though, I don’t just want to suck his cock.  I want him to feel like I am worshipping him orally.  I want him to realise just how much pleasure I am getting from it as well.

The absolute pleasure I get from slobbering all over his cock, from gagging on the size of him, from sucking his balls, from licking his arsehole (if that is to your mutual taste)! 

I also love having to ask for permission to start licking his cock.  That gorgeous glistening head inches from my mouth as I beg him to let me taste it.

So, my advice, don’t just suck his cock, instead take your time and enjoy the exquisite pleasure from worshipping him orally.  And remember, a little oral worship can work both ways!

• 3. A remote control toy

You have a couple of options here – a love egg that you can slip inside you or a clit stimulating toy that can be put inside your knickers (or one that does both!).  It is a fairly personal opinion as to which you prefer.  I find my clit to be far more sensitive with a toy, so that is where my choice would lie.

But the important part is then handing the remote over to your partner so they can control the vibrations.  They can choose when it starts and stops, and how intense the vibrations are.  The two of you can decide whether it is one to play with at home or discreetly in public!

Either way, it is a wonderful way of handing over control, having some fun and providing some exciting foreplay!

• 4. Anal sex

I guess it’s a bit like pineapple on pizza – some people love it, and some people hate it!  I always like to try new things, hence giving it a try and discovering I really rather enjoy it – the anal sex that is, I remain utterly unconvinced about pineapple on pizza.

Clearly, this is something you both have to want to try.  My suggestions – take it slow, enjoy plenty of warm up with fingers, toys, tongues, and have some lube to hand!

And I know the common question is “does it hurt?”.  For me, yes, there is definitely some pain involved at first, but that just helps fuel the incredibly intense pleasure that is to come!

• 5. A formal spanking

I think this one is a bit self-indulgent – as it is something I want more of in 2022.  I generally always enjoy a good spanking and sometimes positive crave one.  But what I want more of, and am recommending you try for 2022, is a more formal spanking.

That sense of apprehension when he points out your infringement and the necessity of a punishment, telling you to be in his study (or similar) at an allotted time to receive said punishment.  I love the thrill I get from that sense of apprehension.

Then the talking to, being told off for my misdemeanour and listening intently as he outlines my punishment.  The formality of having to bend over his knee and raise my skirt, baring either my naked bottom or specific underwear as requested.  And then the inevitable punishment itself!

Yes, definitely something I want more of in 2022!

• 6. A gag

I already mentioned one form of sensory deprivation with a blindfold.  Another option is with a gag.  Often a particularly fitting punishment or funishment if a submissive has been talking back to their Dominant.  Something I am often guilty of!

From a safety perspective, make sure you have an alternative to a safe word agreed, if you are removing someone’s power to communicate with words!

The most common types are a ball gag or an o-gag.  The main advantage some perceive from the o-gag is that the recipient’s mouth is held open which provides at least one obvious benefit!  Some gags also have a cock shaped attachment on the inside, which tends to be popular if you are partaking in some throat training.

For me a gag hits a few different kinks.  There is clearly the control element when my Dom uses a gag on me.  I also find I tend to drool and dribble a lot, especially if I continue to try and back chat around the gag, which plays to my humiliation kink.  Having my mouth held open and available for him to use whenever he pleases, yes, that definitely plays to my kinks too!

• 7. Sensory play

Another area I would recommend experimenting with is some sensory play.  There is lots that you can experiment with here, two that spring to mind for me are hot wax (and / or ice cubes) or a pinwheel.

Hot wax is something I have not tried for a long time and something I need to have on my list to try again soon.  The tension that builds as you wait for the next drip, and the flickers of pain as the hot wax lands on your skin.  It has a very erotic feel to it.

An alternative is a pinwheel, running little pins across your body.  One I have to confess I have not tried but has been recommended to me.  Again, providing a very small element of pain, sensitizing your flesh and, apparently, leaving sexy little marks on your skin!

• 8. Restraint

How could I not include some restraint?  This is a real favourite of mine.  I love the sensation of handing over control and the intimate trust it requires.

Now clearly, this is one to only try with a partner that you really trust, and to have discussed ground rules and safewords in advance.

There is a huge amount of scope here – from just having your wrists tied behind your back with a delicate silk ribbon, through to elaborate hog ties and other specialities with complex rope work.

Personally, I love being laid on my back, spread-eagled on the bed with my wrists and ankles tied to the corners of the bed.  (Comfortable, as well as arousing, in my opinion!).  The feeling of being at his mercy, him able to touch me, play with me, use me however he wishes – this is a huge thrill for me and one I would definitely recommend trying.

• 9. Edging

For the uninitiated, Urban Dictionary has a helpful definition.  “When you tease a person just enough to frustrate them but not enough for them to explode at you. After they calm down you tease them even more bringing them right to their boiling point without pushing them over the edge.”

Basically, teasing your partner over and over, taking them to point where they are just about to climax, and then stopping.  It can be hugely frustrating at the time, but ultimately leads to an incredible climax.  This can take place over a relatively short period of time (20 – 30 minutes) or over a day or longer.

If like me, you cum very easily, then you need a talented edger, who can watch for signs of how close you are to your climax.  But it really does reap benefits, when that delicious climax is finally allowed!

1. 10. Anal hook

Okay, so I saved this one till last.  It is a bit of a bigger step than some of my other suggestions.  For anyone unfamiliar, it is a J-shaped piece of metal with a ball on the shorter end and a loop on the longer end.  The ball gets eased into your behind and then rope can be tied through the loop on the other end.

This creates a lot of opportunities for some predicament bondage.  Imagine this example.  I am on all fours.  My Dominant likes me to maintain my posture with my head up and back arched at all times.  He therefore ties the rope to my ponytail.  If I relax from my perfect posture, I pull the hook further into my behind.  Hence creating a perfect predicament and forcing me to maintain my posture.  I am sure you can dream up many other predicament scenarios to experiment with.

So, there are my ten recommendations of things to try in 2022.  And most importantly, enjoy yourselves!