To Rim or Not to Rim. That is the question…

As with all sex acts, there is clearly a lot of personal preference in terms of what you do and don’t enjoy

I suspect, in the cold light of day, many would say that the idea of sliding their tongue into someone else’s bumhole is really not that appealing

Now, just so we are all clear on what we are talking about here.  Rimming is defined (and I quote Cosmopolitan magazine here, just because it amuses / impresses me that they cover rimming – who knew!!):

“Rimming – or analingus, if we’re being posh – involves licking, sucking, kissing, or otherwise orally stimulating your partner’s anus”

There are the usual safe sex considerations here – plus a few additional ones – so make sure you take those into account.  There are plenty of other articles out there to help you with that side of it

Now, I have to admit, if you made me list my favourite sexual activities – rimming would not be near the top of the list.  But there are some things about it which do drive me wild!

And so, I wanted to share some of my musings, on this rather taboo topic…

Presentation

Firstly, the importance of presentation!  I do have a thing for a cute, pert bottom on a man.  Most importantly though, yes it needs to be scrupulously clean – and I also have a personal preference for licking a hair free bottom!

Now, we can all guess the very obvious reasons the giver wants scrupulous cleanliness.  But, as a receiver, you also want to be able to relax, safe in the knowledge you are presenting an appealingly lickable behind.  For most people a shower will suffice, but I know some people prefer using an anal douche as well

Reaction

Men who enjoy receiving a rim job, tend to really love it.  And personally, I find their reaction an incredible turn on.  I do like to please and rimming is a way to deliver some very exquisite pleasure

Humiliation

Now, for those of you who have read anything else I have written, you may well have picked up on my humiliation kink.  So, my Dom telling me that I have been a naughty girl and now need to pleasure his arsehole with my tongue.  Yup, that plays to my kink!

As I use my mouth to pleasure his arsehole, I feel naughty and I feel dirty and I feel like a bad girl – and yes, that all just heightens my arousal.  And if he calls me a Slut or tells me I am Good Girl while I lick and slobber on his arse – then all the better

Positions

There are two positions which I think are most frequently enjoyed for rimming – or at least I have most frequently experienced!

The first is with me lying on my back and he is grinding himself against my face.  This is more generally used when I am being made to rim him as a direct punishment.  He is clearly very dominant and in control in this position.  And my Dom has been known to administer a few well-placed swats with the crop across my naked body if he feels my tongue is not working enthusiastically enough

I enjoy the feeling of being dominated in this position and it plays more strongly to feelings of being degraded

The second is with him on his front, or on all fours, or resting on a pillow – either of these, but with his bottom very exposed.  Now, this position, gives you a lot more access for your pleasuring – and the added bonus of being able to play with his cock at the same time

My technique

Which brings me on to technique…  I do not claim to be a rimming expert, so others may have better suggestions.  But I have had some very positive feedback!

Like any other part of sex, it is partly about the build up and the teasing.  Kissing his arse cheeks, using my hands to peel his arse cheeks apart and fully expose him, licking his balls.  Then extending those licks – long slow laps with my tongue, from his balls, all the way up his arse crack, over and over.  Until he gets to that point where he is begging for more

Then gently running my tongue around the rim (name of the act explained!!!) of his arsehole and spitting on it.  I am convinced the sound of having his arsehole spat on is as much of a turn-on as the feel of it

And then gently starting to probe that tight little hole with my tongue.  Hearing him whimpering for me to “tongue-fuck” him

Using my hands to play with his balls or stroke his cock while I pleasure his arse with my mouth

To Rim or Not to Rim?

So, the bottom line (sorry, I couldn’t resist!) – if you fancy giving rimming a try, you might just be surprised at how much you enjoy yourself

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If you enjoyed this, I suggest you also read Let’s Talk About a Cock in my Arse